I was 33 years old when I began attending the University of Arizona. Older than most. Married with 2 children. Not your typical University student.
I can honestly say in all my years, this was the loneliest place I had ever been. Surrounded by hundreds of people but not fitting in. Listening to snippets of conversation but never talking. Understanding the reasons I wasn’t ‘included’ but still feeling left out.
Have you ever been in that place? Does it ring a bell?
Now, I’m not talking about being alone. Sometimes I just really love to be by myself. But did you realize you can feel lonely even if you’re around people you know? Even if you’re laughing, talking, having a good time? You can be lonely when all the world around you think you have it all together. It’s an internal emotion ~ a feeling and can be one of the most terrifying, oppressive feelings you can have.
Here’s the point I am getting to – if you start to feel all of these ‘yucky’ feelings. If the ‘inside’ of you begins to feel lonely, depressed, oppressed, or terrified just remember ~ if you are a child of God, you really are never alone.
Paul said it best: “We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted but not forsaken, struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies.” 2 Corinthians 4:8-10.
I know…sometimes you just want some ‘skin’ on Jesus. You would really like to see Him with your eyes. You just want to be able to reach out and touch Him. How do I know this? Because I have felt the same way.
Well right now, His skin is the Bible. If negative emotions begin to creep into your life, get in His word. Let Jesus comfort you in that way. Listen to what He has to say. Surround yourself with people who believe they way you do. Find at lease one person you can trust to tell what you’re feeling, what you’re going through. Don’t let your emotions, your feelings keep you isolated.
And if you don’t know Jesus as your Savior, ask Him into your heart. Ask Him to forgive your sins and dwell in you and keep you. He will replace the ‘lonely’ feeling with His love and peace. There is nothing in this world better than that!
One of my favorite verses is found in Joshua 1:9 and I think it fits rather well in this little piece.
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
He is with us no matter what. He loves us. He gives us comfort and peace. He takes the loneliness away ~ if we let Him.
Relief for loneliness is spelled ~ JESUS!