Author Archives: Cindy

About Cindy

Wife, Mother, Grandmother, daughter, and sister desiring to have Christ invade and infiltrate everything about me. I am a God-Chaser! I am a Jesus-Follower!

Lonely is Raw…

I was 33 years old when I began attending the University of Arizona.  Older than most.  Married with 2 children.  Not your typical University student.

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I can honestly say in all my years, this was the loneliest place I had ever been.  Surrounded by hundreds of people but not fitting in.  Listening to snippets of conversation but never talking.  Understanding the reasons I wasn’t ‘included’ but still feeling left out.

Have you ever been in that place?  Does it ring a bell?

Now, I’m not talking about being alone.  Sometimes I just really love to be by myself.  But did you realize you can feel lonely even if you’re around people you know?  Even if you’re laughing, talking, having a good time?  You can be lonely when all the world around you think you have it all together.  It’s an internal emotion ~ a feeling and can be one of the most terrifying, oppressive feelings you can have.

Here’s the point I am getting to – if you start to feel all of these ‘yucky’ feelings.  If the ‘inside’ of you begins to feel lonely, depressed, oppressed, or terrified just remember ~ if you are a child of God, you really are never alone.

Paul said it best:  “We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted but not forsaken, struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies.”  2 Corinthians 4:8-10.

I know…sometimes you just want some ‘skin’ on Jesus.  You would really like to see Him with your eyes.  You just want to be able to reach out and touch Him.  How do I know this?  Because I have felt the same way.

Well right now, His skin is the Bible.  If negative emotions begin to creep into your life, get in His word.  Let Jesus comfort you in that way.  Listen to what He has to say.  Surround yourself with people who believe they way you do.  Find at lease one person you can trust to tell what you’re feeling, what you’re going through.  Don’t let your emotions, your feelings keep you isolated.

And if you don’t know Jesus as your Savior, ask Him into your heart.  Ask Him to forgive your sins and dwell in you and keep you.  He will replace the ‘lonely’ feeling with His love and peace.  There is nothing in this world better than that!

One of my favorite verses is found in Joshua 1:9 and I think it fits rather well in this little piece.

“Have I not commanded you?  Be strong and courageous.  Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

He is with us no matter what.  He loves us.  He gives us comfort and peace.  He takes the loneliness away ~ if we let Him.

Relief for loneliness is spelled ~ JESUS!

Who’s Whispering What to You!

The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it too. Genesis 3:6 (NLT) (my emphasis)

Eve had been whispered too. She had been told there would be no consequences to eating the one thing she had been told not too. And you know what? The same whispers that she heard are still around and they come in all forms, shapes and sizes.whisper

It can be the ‘serpent’…telling you that God doesn’t care, that you’ve messed up and there is no way you can be forgiven. It can come as a Christian brother or sister who has some information that they just need to relate to you. Or maybe a family member who could be telling you something—’for your own good’. How about a friend who can’t help but tell you the latest item of news they have just heard. And believe it or not, the whisperers come in the form of a book or magazine you read, a radio station you might listen too, or a TV show you watch. Actually when you stop and think about it, the whispering doesn’t stop.

How, you might ask, can we tell the difference between what we should ‘listen too’ and what we should ‘ignore’? Are the whispers you hearing—uplifting? Do they encourage you, build up your self-esteem, help you to grow? Could you/would you repeat them to someone else? Proverbs 18:21 (AMP) says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life]. So no matter what form the whispers come to you…if they are not life-giving they are no good!

Any woman who looks at very much TV, listens to secular music, or looks at the latest magazine on the racks can see how the world is telling us we should act and look and expect to be treated. But we all know what is wrong with that picture. The whispers coming from the world are not encouraging in the right way, they will not enhance your self-esteem and they will not enrich your relationship with Jesus. In my opinion most of the whispering coming from the world makes us less a woman than what our Lord meant for us to be.

I love the Amplified Bibles version of Proverbs 31:30—”Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised!” Every woman wants to look good but when we base our lives on what the world is telling us we will find ourselves in trouble. We are all beautiful ladies no matter our size, our shape, our age, our color. We are the daughters of THE KING. How can we even think to use the worlds standards as our measuring stick?

That’s why we need each other in this day and age more than any other. We need to encourage each other…to lift one another up. There should be dialog in the church that creates an atmosphere where self-esteem is allowed to grow and flourish in the right direction. Women who are mature in the Lord need to mentor the younger. We should in all ways keep Jesus in the forefront of all we think and do. He is the one we have to please. He is the one who—in the end—we will be ’married’ too. The whispers of Christ are the only ones we should ever really listen too. They won’t lead us in any direction but the right one.